Some kids hate being kissed and hugged. I remember that when I was a child, too much touching or just too close proximity caused me considerable physical and psychological unease. This was so irrepressible and obvious that our dear old cleaning lady used to say that I wouldn't stand being married later on in life.
Now, later on in life and married with children, I find that my oldest daughter, Ana, is exactly as I was: she gets along fine with just verbal praise and the occasional hug or kiss.
My youngest daughter, Clara, on the other hand, is completely the opposite. She needs to be hugged - tightly, kissed - frequently, cuddled and physically pampered. She sleeps much better if I hold her hand or massage the back of her head until she falls asleep, she frequently comes up to me to give me (or ask me for) a hug or a kiss and when she sits next to me she likes to be really, really up close and tight. This not only goes for me but for any other person she likes. She very much needs the warmth of physical proximity and touch (which really works out well in the end because everybody loves to hold, hug and kiss her, even at school, where she seems to be treated as some kind of a cute and cuddly mascot).
As I am an older sister, I wonder if as a rule older sisters tend to be more like myself and Ana and younger sisters more like Clara...
Any thoughts on this ?